7 Years live in relationship. Symptoms of Narcissism in the partner slowly began to develop throughout the years. The severity of abuse was not apparent until total isolation from others was realized. Denial and tolerance built on top of heavy drug use and sexual indecency set the stage for a relationship that knew no boundaries. Certain behaviors or actions that would be definite deal breakers to some, would be a normal, everyday just a bad choice of habit to the Narcissist.
Scenario: Narc going out 8:30 pm on a Saturday night
Narc: Honey, I’m gonna go out for a bit
She: Where are you going? With who?
Narc: What? With some friends
She: Who? Anthony? Ben?
Narc: No. I don’t ask you, wth?
She: Because I don’t go out, at least not without you
Narc: Yeah whatever. Bye
She: But it’s Saturday, I thought we were going to check out that new coffee bar?
Narc: Wth! If I wanted you to come, I would ask ok?
She: This is unlike you….who are you going out with?
Narc: None of your business. Do not call me, do not text me. You are just going to ruin my night.
She: Oh Really? I know what’s up.
Narc: Stop trying to control me. You don’t own me, and Since you already deemed me guilty, I might as well just do it. Don’t wait up. (Abruptly leaves and comes home 4am playing drunk and crashes to bed).
She: So what did you do last night?
Narc: What! What? Can’t I just have some peace for a day without you nagging?
She: Nagging? All I asked was…
Narc: Asking what? You ask about everything, it’s Fu##ing ridiculous.
She: OMG, are you for real? I can’t ask?
Narc: NO, you don’t just ask, you already accuse me…..whatever, think what you want to think….(Leaves again)